Afi Ruel Without boundaries, there is no definition. Without definition, anything goes. Where anything goes, failure (at least for some) is guaranteed. In order to succeed, you have to establish boundaries around your time, energy and focus.
What I’ve learned in life is that the more important and valuable a thing is, the more you have to guard it with boundaries. Boundaries are simply rules you put in place to ensure that a resource or commodity is handled properly and not wasted or abused. That resource or commodity can be your time, heart, labor, love or anything else that you have that is valuable.
The important part of boundaries isn’t keeping people from violating them; it’s establishing and following through with consequences once people do. It’s a guarantee that someone at some point will violate your boundaries even after you have clearly communicated them. Your job is to ensure that you follow through with the consequences of the violation.
Many of us are made to feel like we’re mean or selfish for having and enforcing boundaries. But the truth is that you’re being cruel to yourself by not having any. Set and enforce your boundaries like you set and reach your goals, and you’re far more likely to succeed.
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