Afi Ruel People are going to people. And some people like to see you disregulated, unhappy and angry. So they’ll do things to put you there. I know this sounds very dark but it is true. If you can’t embrace this you are either in denial or setting yourself up for failure by not having boundaries or enforcing consequences for violation of those boundaries with these types of people.
Speaking of boundaries, do not allow people to take you out of character. I know this is easier said than done depending on the person and the trigger. But you can either suffer the upset or do the side step. You can’t really do both. Just know that life is a lot more enjoyable when you have peace.
If you’re struggling with this, minimize or eliminate your time around people that you know do this. At least until you can understand why you’re being triggered and heal that. Once you’ve healed you’ll find it easier to handle these types of people with your peace and dignity intact. In life there are so many things you have no control over. You control whether or not you act out of character. And one way to avoid acting out of character is to not allow anyone to “take you there”.
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